"the trick is to favor free speech but not antisocial behavior."
We have gone down this slippery slope before however.
I favor civility as well, but "do not remind people that they are mortal" rapidly becomes "do not talk about death" and at that point, we are in the censorship cycle.
@p @alex @Moon and @thor have helped shape my thinking on this front.
The best way to have civility is to have users who ignore ("mute") anyone uncivil but engage with any civil statements.