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mushroom_soup (mushroom_soup@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:01:50 JST mushroom_soup @RMIV @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess i would say it was better to get to know her better and then it should be obvious if she's receptive to romantic stuff -
:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:01:50 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @mushroom_soup @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess isn’t that a longer, perhaps for both parties, more time-wasting version of just asking for a date? my experience has been that if she doesn’t like you up-front, she isn’t gonna like you much better later, sexually speaking. as a man you either make pussies wet or you don’t. per Woggy’s movie novelty feels theory, increasing familiarity with a guy she felt no spark with at the outset… that isn’t a situation that is going to get better with time.
the guys might have been self-defeating in being over-the-top-forward, but i also understand that as a man the last thing you want to do with a woman is give your precious time to a girl who doesn’t want you.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:01:50 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @mushroom_soup @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess I guess I should acknowledge the fact that the boa constrictor method kinda relies on you being well-liked and cool, but relatively unassuming at first glance.
The kind of guy who gets the “you’re totally different from what I thought when we met, it’s crazy“ kind of thing. Plain guy who seems normal but is actually cool and well-liked by everybody, that kind of thing. Simple exposure won’t really pique her interest just by existing near her.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:05:38 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @mushroom_soup @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess And yeah, it is ‘time-wasting’ but that’s partly the whole “yeah if I’m not getting inside you w/ regularity you’re an utter slog to be around“ vibe.
We as guys are really, REALLY in a rush to get to the happy family ending. We sabotage ourselves a lot with it, so focused on the end goal we give off the vibe of sprinting through the section of courtship that girls savor (and we should too. I love being able to recall the early weeks/months of a relationship, it reaffirms your affection for her later. )
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:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:06:30 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @WashedOutGundamPilot @mushroom_soup @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess i’ve never been able to present as a plain regular guy i’m simply too odd.
when i was getting laid like tile it was because i had things going on that people wanted to be a part of and i was central to who was in/out.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:07:11 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @mushroom_soup @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess See? That’s HUGE. Being a mini-kingpin in some social circle is a big deal in the way they function on that instinctive level, and dudes are completely blind to it.
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pyrate : sleigh captain (pyrate@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:07:44 JST pyrate : sleigh captain @WashedOutGundamPilot @KiKi88 @princess @RMIV @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup yup, they only have interest in men they can find out a little about. Rarely a stranger. Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:15:57 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @pyrate @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup Good point. You aren’t in a good position to really shine there.
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:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:15:58 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @pyrate @WashedOutGundamPilot @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup it strikes me that the problem with coming on to them while being a complete stranger, is that women primarily want to fuck a man’s context (he’s a doctor, lawyer, Army Ranger, band frontman) which fundamental to his status, and status is what women are evolved to primarily select for. attractive men with resources respected by other attractive men with resources are a good bet for where women want their eggs.
if you’re just some guy on the street, unless perhaps you look like the guy from Call Me Maybe or Jeremy Meeks, it’s pretty hard-to-impossible for her to gauge your attractiveness.
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:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:19:31 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @WashedOutGundamPilot @mushroom_soup @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess it was huge, i basically enjoyed a harem, and at the time i was ignorant of how this had happened to me. but i was not so spergy as to allow the seeming then-inexplicability of the situation stop me. recovering from that coming to an end was pretty rough tho especially when you don’t know why.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 10:20:09 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @mushroom_soup @deprecated_ii @TinyFern @KiKi88 @princess We’re all ignorant until the hubbub dies down, then we start piecing it together too late to recover it
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Man of Dog (kuon@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:11:57 JST Man of Dog @RMIV @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @WashedOutGundamPilot @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup "hey babe you're looking at a genuine reddit moderator"
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:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:11:57 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @WashedOutGundamPilot @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup perhaps my example in its particulars isn’t too helpful. perhaps the personal qualities that belied it are more germane. i wasn’t and still am not the most socially dexterous person (i am light years beyond the deficient that i once was) yet confidence isn’t my short suit. boldness covers myriad flaws.
like Marshall McLuhann said, I might be wrong but I’m not lying. I may be in error but I’m never in doubt. it’s an approach that’s allowed an autist like me to punch well above his weight in life.
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Man of Dog (kuon@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:11:58 JST Man of Dog @RMIV @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @WashedOutGundamPilot @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup what does "things going on and I was central to who was in/out" mean? Can you specify a bit? This is way too vague to get any useful information out of. -
:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:11:58 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @WashedOutGundamPilot @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup i used to be 1 of 5 people who together would host musical concerts featuring musicians you have certainly heard of and likely have in your playlists. and young women witnessed me acting as point of contact, if you will, between our people and everyone we dealt with.
whether it was the talent, the police, the vendors, the on-site medical team, the security team, whoever, if you wanted to deal with us then i was the guy you talked to, it was my entire job. i was highly visible and i wielded power.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:13:40 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup “linchpin of music acts” is like slick-50 for panties
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Man of Dog (kuon@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:40:31 JST Man of Dog @RMIV @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @WashedOutGundamPilot @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup Strange, acting like that only ever gets me in trouble or puts people off. Maybe the autistic superpower of disregarding socialization is highly context-dependent? Could you give an example of where it did allow you to punch well above your weight? I understand if it's difficult to think of a specific occurence. Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks repeated this. -
:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:40:31 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @WashedOutGundamPilot @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup >acting like that only ever gets me in trouble or puts people off.
it often did that for me too. you will get the bad experiences with the better ones and the downright good ones.
>Could you give an example of where it did allow you to punch well above your weight?
well, that gig acting as representative for our music scene back in the day was probably the most impressive example (i didn't know those other people running the fledgling enterprise until i walked up to them and told them i liked and admired what they were doing and that i wanted to be a part. i became their most regular and useful volunteer which led to the position i described). but that approach has afforded me all sorts of opportunities ranging from hosting AM radio programs, assisting in heart surgeries, i've even been a plumber, an electrician, and i'm a military vet. i've tried a lot of different things.
it's not like i wasn't afraid. or that i enjoy dealing with people. i don't. i'm weird and noone knows *just how weird* better than me. but i am *waaaay* more afraid of losing out on the good things in life via my own inaction. so i rub some people the wrong way sometimes because i don't detect all their goofy social cues. i guess that's their problem. -
Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:41:04 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup This is why networking is so important. You can go far just off one lucky “hey man you’re cool, you should help out with this job” interaction. Your entire life can be made that way.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:43:58 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup I never did that. Never had an idea of WTF to do with them, either. I usually end a relationship by nuking everything intimate, if she was a good trad chick. Knowing she’d be some other guy’s wife always made me toss it.
Skanks didn’t necessarily have that same guarantee, though IDK if I even kept their stuff too.
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:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 12:43:59 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @WashedOutGundamPilot @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup i even kept some of the panties.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 13:26:22 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @RMIV @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup I keep all the crafts and stuff. I have a lot of cutesey things, letters, notes, etc. from the more serious ones. I just don’t keep those at my place where she can find them. Not a convo I wanna have.
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:bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: (rmiv@poa.st)'s status on Friday, 03-Mar-2023 13:26:23 JST :bible_wh::confederateflag:RMIV⛎:sonnenrad::yay: @WashedOutGundamPilot @kuon @KiKi88 @princess @TinyFern @deprecated_ii @mushroom_soup one girl became my fiancee (it didn’t last) and i took some art she’d produced & given to me plus some sentimental knick-knacks from our time together and arranged it all in a shadow-box that i hung on the bedroom wall in the apartment. yeah her panties were in the shadowbox too as part of the composition lol.
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