Hmmm you're trying to simulate what a woman would think of you, which you can only do very generally, and not very accurately because they're so different from us. You can't see yourself from this outside perspective though, so it's mostly setting you up for failure. You shouldn't dwell much on what others think of you, just act! If you see a qt at the coffee shop, you can ask for her number, it's not actually a crime. The social stigma against approaching women is just a shit test.