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1. Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:12:35 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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   @d0c40r0 @GLObalMARinePR Could be interesting, but just be ready to navigate things when she realizes work is a lot less fulfilling than being there for the kids. Tons and tons of women will like their job until they get a taste of motherhood, then take a 10 year hiatus until the kids are older (which may be too soon, if both parents allow the kids to start raising themselves in their teens)

   It may be a tough transition, where she tries to square conflicting feelings of either choice. They’ll feel duty to their career and the sisterhood, seeing a hiatus as giving up and quitting, but they’ll feel guilty going to work and putting it above the kids’ wellbeing.

   It’s manageable, just something to ready yourself for so it doesn’t blindside you.

   • Doc (d0c40r0@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:15:00 JST Doc

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     That's the plan
     
     I make enough money that she doesn't have to work but her mother has a doctorate so I suppose there's some sort of "I have to go to college and get a job" because of that
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   • Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:15:00 JST Impaler

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     Lame! College is a horrible place to send nice young ladies. Tell her to save the money for babies.

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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:20:34 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     @d0c40r0 @GLObalMARinePR I had that fight w/ my parents when my sister didn’t wanna go, she already had her husband mostly picked out and felt it was a waste of money. The parents were very opposed to not sending her, no matter how much the boys pointed out how often it went wrong with their friends’ kids.

     It’s just funny how they were saying “okay but she needs a backup plan, we need to spend $60,000 on a degree she’ll never use for a job that pays $32,000 a year”

     I don’t plan on sending my daughters off to college, if they wanna go they can live at home and commute to school. Shipping kids away is too dangerous, it’s like removing all the supports on a concrete wall before it’s had a chance to set

   • Doc (d0c40r0@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:20:38 JST Doc

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     I agree entirely but her mother has a doctorate and her grandmother told her that it’s a brilliant idea to go live at a college for 4 years (I’d assume mental damage but it’s fine)
     
     She’s gonna go to a small Christian school 2 hours from where I live tho so we’re all good I suppose
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   • Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:20:43 JST Impaler

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     Does she listen to you or her grandmother? And “small Christian schools” aren’t much better. We’re so stupid. What kind of society sends their women away to live alone and unprotected? It’s asinine. Women are inherently vulnerable. And certain people see us as nothing more than prey.

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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:21:35 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     @d0c40r0 @GLObalMARinePR I’m not counseling you, BTW, more just riffing on the theme. She’s your wife and it’s your call, your judgement is better than mine.

   • Doc (d0c40r0@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:22:55 JST Doc

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     I know
     
     and she ain't quite yet ... October '24 is the plan
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   • Dr. Rupert, Doctor of Shitpoasting Studies (rupertvonripp@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:23:09 JST Dr. Rupert, Doctor of Shitpoasting Studies

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     @WashedOutGundamPilot @d0c40r0 @GLObalMARinePR Commuter school at most. Anything else is begging your daughter to go zippertits or dangerhair.
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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:27:38 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     @RupertvonRipp @d0c40r0 @GLObalMARinePR It’s funny because my game for the boys is the opposite: I would prefer they get thrust into a difficult pressure cooker of a situation in their late teens, away from the family for a season, without the scaffolding they have at home, because it gives them a reason to grow and gain confidence in their own footing. Stuff like working on a crab boat, (once military but no more), or working abroad is a good way for them to learn the hard lessons early on.

     But boys are different from women. I would let my son do a stint in the peace corps, but never my daughter. Far too risky, and she doesn’t need the same mettle, the same tenacity a man does as the head of household. He needs to be able to find himself and become rooted in his beliefs, immutable in his conviction and confidence because he’ll be the one who has to dig his feet in and hold the line for the entire family.

     That’s not her job, so I’d prefer she stay in the protective community of family and friends so she doesn’t have a chance to invent herself anew to the delight of NYU students and faculty.

   • Doc (d0c40r0@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:31:00 JST Doc

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     I want a son who can do damn near anything he puts his mind to and a daughter who can find a man who can do damn near anything he puts his mind to
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   • Dr. Rupert, Doctor of Shitpoasting Studies (rupertvonripp@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:31:20 JST Dr. Rupert, Doctor of Shitpoasting Studies

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     @WashedOutGundamPilot @d0c40r0 @GLObalMARinePR Wisdom. And correct. An adventure is a good initiation rite into manhood for a boy, potentially disastrous for a girl.
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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 07-Jan-2023 06:57:15 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     @RupertvonRipp @d0c40r0 @GLObalMARinePR I think about parts of that as a kind of comfort barometer. When you’re living in the US, you’re likely pretty dang comfy by human standards. You don’t know what true suffering feels like, you haven’t yet experienced the gnawing, jittery pain of deep hunger; the misery of lasting, weeks-long discomfort like you would living in a muddy trench.

     But once you do, everything else seems easier in comparison. Your barometer has been reset to a true zero, so you know that 54º isn’t actually “freezing” like your sweaterless sister always said it was.