This is so stupid! A man should be able to confide in his wife, his helpmate. The reason women act this way is because seeing a weakness in the man makes them realize there is responsibility on them too. Suddenly they don’t get to be the helpless one all the time. “Wait, he has weaknesses too? What, now I’m supposed to help him instead of him always helping me?” Grow up! Woman aren’t supposed to just be children with boobs. Sheesh :AAAAAAAAAA:
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Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:27:26 JST Impaler -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:27:25 JST Impaler Yes. This is true. A man opening up early in a relationship is odd. But what man is jumping at the chance to spill his guts and sob?
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sparky ⚓ (sparky@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:27:25 JST sparky ⚓ @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot Misato fans Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
sparky ⚓ (sparky@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:27:26 JST sparky ⚓ @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot Well yeah, it's wife stuff. I can confide in my wife -- she's stuck with me now and also owes me for a decade of putting the family on my back and willing us through a heaping helping of bullshit.
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Pride of Utopia (deerblood@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:33 JST Pride of Utopia @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot I don't think you are. This is just how women are and many men here will have an example of this or something similar happening in their own lives. I'm not passing judgement, it's just how it is and we men need to act accordingly -
Victor_Emmanuel (victor_emmanuel@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:33 JST Victor_Emmanuel @DEERBLOOD @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot Assuming you are right, this isn't an attitude we should keep after we win. Comforting her husband might be a chore, but so is a full time job. How attractive is a wife after giving birth or vomiting during pregnancy? Not very I would assume, but husbands manage to push through that.
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Pride of Utopia (deerblood@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:34 JST Pride of Utopia @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot Yeah I'm sure you're not like the other girls -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:34 JST Impaler I’m not a child.
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Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:35 JST Impaler I’m a woman.
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Pride of Utopia (deerblood@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:35 JST Pride of Utopia @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot Well then no offense, but you really won't understand this. You can think it's stupid in your head, but if a man tearfully poured out his soul to you, especially about something that made him vulnerable, you'd dry up like the Sahara Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:35 JST Impaler Nope!
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Pride of Utopia (deerblood@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:36 JST Pride of Utopia @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot It is stupid, but we are what we are and she's wired to get The Ick if she sees you having a moment of weakness
Confide in your mom, your dad maybe if he isn't an insufferable boomer like mine is, and your brosWoggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:35:55 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @Victor_Emmanuel @DEERBLOOD @Impaler yeah, deal with it, man. It’s not equal. Men have to carry a heavier load. It’s not fair. That’s how it’s supposed to be. Stop asking her to carry more than you, just pray to be stronger so the load feels lighter on your end.
I promise that once you DO get stronger you’ll love it. It’s indescribable when you realize you’re her hero. When you’re in the midst of something truly scary, where you know that death awaits a slip-up, and you look back at the kids and see them laughing their heads off - because to them they are perfectly safe, after all - Dad is here.
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Dan_Hulson (dan_hulson@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:36:16 JST Dan_Hulson @AdHocToth @Impaler @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot My family always said I'm good in most circumstances but that's bollocks I'm often close to falling apart but a man must show strength around his family as they look to you for guidance -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:36:16 JST Impaler That’s in the moment of action. That’s not a quiet time to decompress. There’s a big difference!
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Dan_Hulson (dan_hulson@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:36:16 JST Dan_Hulson @Impaler @AdHocToth @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot Women say they want sensitive men until it happens and they realise they are all namby pambies. I'm not saying to be cold but men must try and keep it all in Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
AdHocToth (adhoctoth@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:36:17 JST AdHocToth @Impaler @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot This is what you think because you're being rational at the moment. Perceiving weakness in your husband won't trigger a rational response. It will trigger a physiological response similar to fight or flight. Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:37:19 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @Impaler I’m giving you all a blanket ban for a reason - your soul is too small to distinguish the things you should rightfully be weepy at right now.
Once you go through REAL suffering, actual pain and anguish that enlarges the soul then you’ll be better at distinguishing the things that are appropriate to indulge in with your girl. For most of the suburban raised kids, you won’t have much. Most of the biggest issues in your childhood will look small once you get real life-and-death living under your belt.
So try to fight that impulse for now, and if you ever do feel like it’s the right choice then hopefully you’re onto something. But never forget this: She’ll look to you in her darkest moment, and finding out that rock she’s built her house on is nothing more than hardpacked clay will NOT be comforting for her.
I’d much rather you, say, be comforting and accommodating about a miscarriage with her, and let the bulk of it out in front of your dad & brothers. It’s not good to shake her confidence when things are looking bleak.
Welcome to your ship, Captain. It’s a heavy responsibility.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:42:33 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @Victor_Emmanuel @DEERBLOOD @Impaler That’s why I want you guys to live more, experience the highs and lows of life. The more you see firsthand the easier it is to keep a perspective. Being acquainted with death makes it less of a bummer when you think about wallowing in ‘trauma’ like this redditor’s childhood bullying. If he’d gone through shit after that, he’d’ve had time to think and chew on his past experiences, he’d have gotten over it while he’s trying to sleep, one day at a time. And then he’d have a better perspective, it wouldn’t be as heavy as it used to be.
There’s a LOT of rough stuff on the horizon for all of us. We’re in for a very rough go if people’s thermometers are calibrated for a +-10º swath of suburban comfort.
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Victor_Emmanuel (victor_emmanuel@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:42:34 JST Victor_Emmanuel @WashedOutGundamPilot @DEERBLOOD @Impaler I'm not asking her to carry even an equal load, just something. I am not against getting stronger, but you can't expect most men to be ideal stoics. Enough pressure will cause most men to break down for a brief period. -
AdHocToth (adhoctoth@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 10:42:42 JST AdHocToth @Impaler @Dan_Hulson @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot No there's no difference. Women look for consistency. I'm sure you'd agree with that statement. That consistency applies to everything at all times. If I've got a head cold, I'm doing fine. If I'm stitching up a 6 inch gash on my arm, I'm doing great. If the world looks like its going to crumble tomorrow, I've never been better. No comprises Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Pride of Utopia (deerblood@poa.st)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 22:46:38 JST Pride of Utopia @Victor_Emmanuel @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot Us winning won't undue tens of thousands of years of evolutionary psychology. Women are hypergamous. If they think their man is a pussy they'll look to trade up Ardainian Hebrew Israelite repeated this. -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Apr-2023 22:46:38 JST Impaler This is the problem with sex outside of marriage. Women have sex with so many different men that it has lost all its meaning. A woman who is intimate with one man is not looking to trade up. She’s more or less imprinted on him like a baby duck imprints on its mother. It doesn’t go looking for another one.
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Varus (varus@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 04:56:21 JST Varus @Impaler @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot can I call you must so I can cry in your arms for an hour? Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 04:56:30 JST Impaler What’s wrong?
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Varus (varus@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 04:56:30 JST Varus @Impaler @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot hear you're okay with man being vulnerable and crying Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Varus (varus@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 04:56:38 JST Varus @Nou @Impaler @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot feminine women s supposed to be caring and loving. -
Nick (nou@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 04:56:38 JST Nick @Varus @DEERBLOOD @Impaler @WashedOutGundamPilot I know they're supposed to be.
But the thing is EvoPsych doesn't just go out the window because of what we want or what is supposed to be. There are literally thousands of example like the one responded to in the OP.
And it's not even their fault they feel a visceral disgust at a man showing any vulnerability. Any more than it's a man's fault he feels a visceral disgust at a fat chick. But their fault or not, it is a fact of life.Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks likes this. -
Nick (nou@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 04:56:39 JST Nick @Varus @Impaler @DEERBLOOD @WashedOutGundamPilot Lol. Imagine actually believing that.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 05:07:22 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @Impaler We still have instincts, and most people lack the ability to brainwash them away. A guy, say, a year in breaking down into a weeping, blubbering mess, sobbing in your lap for a full hour as he recounts being molested by his teacher WILL have an effect in your head. A part of you will (somewhat rightfully) feel like he’s not reliable when survival is on the line. And then you just feel differently.
Maybe you notice, but most people don’t. They don’t put it into words, they just feel and act, pulling away and getting inexplicably irritated by every little thing he does. You’ll start to be impatient at the way he asks you for permission instead of doing things, or get the ‘ick’ when he sounds all submissive when he’s dealing with a stronger man. You’ll feel like he’s just more effeminate and weak, and you’ll stop feeling positive towards him. That’s your deep programming disentangling you from being bound with a guy who will get you and your children slaughtered by stronger tribes whose men arent’ blubbering pussies.
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Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:39 JST Impaler I think I understand what you’re saying. And I don’t disagree with it. We should also remember that individual personality has a lot to do with what it attractive to somebody. One woman may find a man weak while the other finds him caring. The second woman may find a different man cold while the first woman finds him strong.
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Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:39 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks @Impaler @Humpleupagus @Nou Okay now I’m actually almost believing you ARE a girl, after all.
“Okay but like there’s gotta be a girl out there who LOVES short, chubby, bald men!”
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Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:40 JST Impaler The lesbian experience thing is like polling women on any sexual deviant acts they’ve done.
Being a “true” lesbian who lives with another woman and/or “marries” one is different I think.
And just because a lesbian doesn’t consistently hate on men, doesn’t mean she didn’t have a bad experience with one that makes her uncomfortable being intimate with men.
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🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:40 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 The ones I know personally are married. And if they can be intimate with a woman despite a woman not having the qualities of being a tough guy or having a big dick, it only proves my initial claim right. -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:40 JST Impaler I think your claim is that women don’t always want strong men. Is that right?
But lesbians are essentially living a lie. So I don’t think they’re a good example to use.
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🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:40 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 But they should be turned off or the theory holds true, but they still have intimacy, regardless of the truth value of it. This has to be explained away or the exception swallows the rule.
If one makes it about nurture, and claims lesbianism is anything other than pure genetics, than my original position holds, and the question is merely one of environmental conditions.
If it is environment, then environment could similarly influence the traits desired in a male, which could include finding openess attractive or otherwise not being turned off by it.
I honestly think women are more like clay than stone. They can be molded. And to think that a man cannot be open is to assume they're fixed and rigid.
Going back to the original post, the mistake was not the openness, but the timing, the context, or even the follow up. He needs to set up the environment, before, during, and after. -
Impaler (impaler@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:41 JST Impaler In my observation, lesbians usually hate men because of a bad experience with one in their past.
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🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:41 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 First, the percentage of women who have had a lesbian experience is high, probably 60%, though the rate of those who stay lesbian or admit to the experience in polls is far lower.
Second, you're right, in some cases it may be triggered by trauma, but I know a few lesbians that are just lesbians, and self-employed conservative ones at that, and I'm in California.
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Nick (nou@poa.st)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:42 JST Nick @Humpleupagus @WashedOutGundamPilot @Impaler Lesbians aren't real, friend. -
🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:42 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 > Women want a strong macho man
What about lesbians?
> Women want big dicks and to be fucked by lots of dudes.
What about lesbians?
Women at far more likely to be gay or bisexual. I'm thinking the anyone who thinks that either of the foregoing propositions are true doesn't know how to really please a woman. Stop taking the black pill. 🙄 -
🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:41:43 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 Date a lesbian. Simple as. 🤷♂️ -
Omega Variant (omega_variant@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 08:59:18 JST Omega Variant MFW I have had a thin spot on top of my head since I was about 18 and am 5'7 with a wife and 2 kids.
I have a massive.....sorry lost my train of thought. I have a massively attractive personality. -
🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 08:59:18 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 Yeah. Somehow I've always pulled tail, even at 5'7". It's never been an issue. But I can fill a room myself. -
Disinformation Purveyor :verified_think: (thatguyoverthere@shitposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 08:59:18 JST Disinformation Purveyor :verified_think: @Humpleupagus @Impaler @Omega_Variant @Nou @WashedOutGundamPilot my dad was ahort fella, but he was a tough son of a bitch with Popeye's forearms -
SKracket (skracket@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 09:00:47 JST SKracket self employed conservative lesbians? do they know they could be runnind for office or at least hosting a talk show? -
🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 09:00:47 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 I'll tell them. 😆
I grew up in a very strange town. Almost everyone went through a libertarian phase at some point, even the women. Many very independent types.
And honestly, while I think most lesbians are insufferable, these are people I've known from childhood. They've never done me wrong, and they're not the type to put rainbow stickers on anything. You wouldn't even know they were gay unless you knew. So I'll leave them be. We have bigger problems.Disinformation Purveyor :verified_think: likes this. -
ĐØⱠⱠ (doll@decayable.ink)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 11:22:51 JST ĐØⱠⱠ If you do, wear shinguards and protect the crown jewels. -
:mrfog: mr. Alexander Fog (alex_fog@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 11:22:52 JST :mrfog: mr. Alexander Fog fuck you Sui hiiiiiiiii ❤️ -
🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 11:22:52 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 Don't fuck with the midget mafia. -
:suihead: (sui@decayable.ink)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 11:22:53 JST :suihead: Careful, dwarves can get kind of hostile around normal sized people. -
Omega Variant (omega_variant@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 11:22:54 JST Omega Variant *high five*
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:mrfog: mr. Alexander Fog (alex_fog@nicecrew.digital)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 11:22:54 JST :mrfog: mr. Alexander Fog im tall.
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