@GabeLakmann I still surprise my woman by being happy for people’s success. It’s silly, other people’s success doesn’t detract from mine. Finding people in the same sphere is just another node in my network to reinforce my position anyways. Why get defensive? But, my identity doesn’t ride on any of my hobbies/jobs so
“oh that new family has a guy about your age, he works at jetblue I think”
“aw that’s cool he made good time then”
(she expects me to try and cut him down)