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1. ComfyGuy (comfyguy@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:40:07 JST ComfyGuy
   The thing people never talk about with incels and giving shit advice is how getting a gf is the easy part so if you cant even do that without putting in an insane amount of work its basically over
   • ComfyGuy (comfyguy@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:40:06 JST ComfyGuy

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     • Festive Bunny
     @Bunny A lot of guys dont even need to work out to get a gf. You can lose weight just by starving. Its basically just being good looking and "having a personality" which isn't really about having a rich personality but a few character traits they look for
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   • ComfyGuy (comfyguy@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:40:07 JST ComfyGuy

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     People dont just want a gf they want a working relationship. just because you can get a girlfriend doesn't mean you're going to stick together for the rest of your life. you might break up after a few weeks or six months over something stupid
   • Festive Bunny (bunny@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:40:07 JST Festive Bunny

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     @ComfyGuy A lot of guys could get a gf just by working out. It’s that simple. The hard part is getting a good gf.
   • Paultron-3030 (paultron@poa.st)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:40:21 JST Paultron-3030

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     • Vril
     • Festive Bunny
     @Vril_Oreilly @Bunny @ComfyGuy what works for me is acting as if she definitely wants to go on making it less of an ask and shifting straight to planning.
     So not 'do you wanna go' and more 'lets go here around this time yeah?' and if she wants to decline the ball is now in her court
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   • Vril (vril_oreilly@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:40:22 JST Vril

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     • Festive Bunny
     @ComfyGuy @Bunny my problem was always the social aspect. Okay I'm talking to this girl, she's not disgusted by me, how do I turn this into phone number/date/etc. Some guys seem to have this naturally, I don't. I can go approach any stranger and say hi, turning that into a relationship I'll never understand.
   • Vril (vril_oreilly@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:49:38 JST Vril

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     • Paultron-3030
     • Festive Bunny
     @Paultron @Bunny @ComfyGuy I'm talking even earlier. how do you reliably get to the point of scheduling a date.
     >see qt at grocery store
     >hey how are you?
     >good! how about you?
     >???
     >???
     >date
     >relationship?
   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:49:38 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     • Paultron-3030
     • Vril
     • Festive Bunny

     @Vril_Oreilly @Paultron @Bunny @ComfyGuy Yeah cold approaches sucked 10 years ago, now they're basically hopeless unless you make her weak in the knees. Better to meet pre-vetted, where she knows something about you via coworkers, community, etc.

     I always had better luck with non-dates since they get girls angsty. Front loading a get-to-know-you thing with romance always adds a weird dimension, where you're stuck having to dump the other one if there are unilateral feels.

     I like asking them to provide their feminine style eye to help me go furniture shopping or something, grab food after. If she asks if it's a date just scoff at her and sarcastically ask "yeah? Does Ikea at 2 pm on a saturday FEEL like a date to you? Do you feel wined and dined? It's a stretch but if we don't get drinks I can get you some meatballs on the way out"

     Stuff like that, where you can make continued jokes as a line throughout the session is good, too. They like that, shows you're mentally apt enough to multitask, make them laugh, and keep track of things on the fly. Then you drop them off with a thanks and wait, whomever you dealt with to meet her will end up filtering back her report to you to know how it went.

     IDK though, maybe I just luck out with this stuff. Girls just like the texture of a burgeoning relationship, guys don't get that ladies really like SAVORING the courtship process. We always wanna skip to the comfy, secure, lazy-night-in part of dating

     I'm rambling but hopefully it gives you something to think about, if nothing else it's a diff. tactic. Cold approaches are brutal these days, unless it's like, the same friendly cashier you kind of know after a while it's not going to be anything

   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:52:29 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     • Paultron-3030
     • Vril
     • Festive Bunny

     @Vril_Oreilly @Bunny @ComfyGuy @Paultron I understand WHY the guys become hapa breeders, but I refuse to play along and act like they've done the optimal thing. They have to pony up and be very attentive fathers to mitigate the damage they caused. And lose their bitching rights about boomer inheritance theft.

     Same w/ druggies, if you can't survive a week without your vice of choice - I get it, but don't sell me on this shit like you AREN'T in the thrall of addiction. I'll be imperfect here in the trenches with you, but telling people "nah it's cool it's just percs( and if I don't take them every 12 hrs I will be completely crippled for 3 weeks,) it's just a hobby, it's fine"

   • Vril (vril_oreilly@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:52:30 JST Vril

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     • Paultron-3030
     • Festive Bunny
     @Bunny @ComfyGuy @Paultron on a meta-level racemixing is obviously less than ideal. but if you're a guy who's never had a gf, and your two choices are killing yourself and marrying your chinky soulmate, I don't blame guys for doing it.
   • Festive Bunny (bunny@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:52:31 JST Festive Bunny

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     • Paultron-3030
     • Vril
     @Vril_Oreilly @Paultron @ComfyGuy I think a lot of guys want more organic relationships.
   • Vril (vril_oreilly@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:52:31 JST Vril

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     • Paultron-3030
     • Festive Bunny
     @Bunny @ComfyGuy @Paultron My theory is if women were a tiny bit more open, expressive, and less standoffish we would have a lot fewer incels. Talking to women as a stranger is like pulling teeth
   • Festive Bunny (bunny@comfyboy.club)'s status on Sunday, 03-Mar-2024 07:52:31 JST Festive Bunny

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     • Paultron-3030
     • Vril
     @Vril_Oreilly @ComfyGuy @Paultron This is why 6/10 White guys end up with 4/10 Asian women.