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1. nugger (nugger@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 26-Oct-2023 03:46:41 JST nugger

   • Goban
   TL;DR LIVING ON BENEFITS IS NO LONGER WORSE THAN WORKING BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER AFFORD ANYTHING YOU WANT ANYWAY
   
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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 26-Oct-2023 03:46:41 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     @nugger @Goban Actually the other day a boomercon was complaining about how his kid is a burnout, and after trying to get him to see things from the kid’s POV (which is partially right, partially wrong but the kid needs repair, not recycling) I finally pointed out that the reason he turned out the way he did is that dad was never around to actually be a father to him.

     He was so proud of his career but it became fairly obvious that he burned everything on that altar. His marriage, his family, his life, all of it turned to ash on the altar of Delta Airlines and his high-paid jetset life of travel and consultancy.

     You can tell real quick when there’s a good relationship, you actually talk and know about each other. He didn’t know anything about his kids’ dating history, struggles, or goals. Fathers like that bother me because they’re just managers of their family, not real leaders. And there’s a huge chasm between those roles. Most managers believe they’re a leader, but they’re nothing but a distant overseer.

   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 26-Oct-2023 03:52:04 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     @nugger @Goban And it segues into one of my fave topics, thanks to being roommates with a fascinating wannabe leader/politician type. Lots of nights arguing about why he was never worthy of the mantle no matter how many “leadership” courses and associations he involved himself in.

     A leader loves his men regardless of their imperfections. He’s slow to give up on his charges, and sees the highest stature his underlings could achieve in every case. He sees his men for what they are, along with what they can be, and leverages the powers at his disposal to knock them into a form closer to the latter than the former.

     A ‘dad’ spending 6 days a week on the road, only to come home, drink beer and watch football before disappearing again robs his children of essential role modeling and understanding in every aspect of life. The kids never see a worker, a builder, a guide, a wise man, a teacher, or a loving husband. So they end up a lot like a single mother’s child, listless and incomplete despite their age.

   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 26-Oct-2023 03:53:22 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     @nugger @Goban This, BTW is my grand principle in evaluating our would-be fuhrers in all our politics. I see many who have anger at the other teams, but few who genuinely love the man in the trenches fighting under their own flag.

     Someday we’ll get him, but I tend to doubt the world as it stands offers him the needed conditions to grow

   • Christmas Coon (mebigbrain@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 26-Oct-2023 04:08:31 JST Christmas Coon

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     • Goban
     @WashedOutGundamPilot @nugger @Goban A Führer will love all of his people, not just the ones that are obviously useful to him (he won't think of any of them as useless).
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