cool_boy_mew (coolboymew@shitposter.club)'s status on Sunday, 16-Jul-2023 10:04:09 JST
cool_boy_mew>Mom is about to sit on the GODDAMN glass table DIRECTLY ON THE FUCKING GLASS >The glass is held is 4 extremely small tabs that looks like they're about to break >This is an extremely old glass table, I suspect this is NOT those protected glass due to several reasons (sun reflection, several big chip in the table that didn't simply make the whole big break as it should), meaning, if it breaks, this could be EXTREMELY dangerous >Obviously, I immediately shouted "NOOOOO, DON'T" and got fucking mad as it was about to happen, because this is dangerous as shit >Somehow I'm the bad guy here >I immediately tells how fucking dangerous this is about to be >Dad: "Then mom should have hurt herself"
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Am I going fucking insane here??? How the fuck am I the asshole here?
@mangeurdenuage I fucking hate this, I can't ever actually be mad for any reasons, then I have to go through the fucking humiliating "S-s-sorry Okaa-sama ;_____;" process even though I clearly wasn't in the fucking wrong, it's that or I get kicked out
> "Dad, you don't care if mom gets hurt? I was only looking out for her because that's what family does. I mean.... if you were about to cut your hand off due to what I knew was a dangerous condition, you wouldn't want me to warn you? Of course you would. That's what I did for mom."
@Humpleupagus@mangeurdenuage besides why do I have to tell a fucking 60 years old woman what you would normally tell a 5 years old
You don't sit on a glass table, especially on the glass side, that's fucking retarded, plus I know the table that the VERY small tabs that holds the glass looks like they're about to give out and the table is potentially dangerous due to it possibly being unprotected glass. All the more possible reasons not to sit on a fucking glass table
@Humpleupagus@mangeurdenuage Here's what the table is like. It's on the long, two parallel | | metal bars with only 4 extremely small tabs on each extremities. When I say small, they're about 1 or 2 cm x 1 or 2 cm. Only four of them, and they're leaning down from years of wear, barely even touching the glass at this point
@animeirl@Humpleupagus@mangeurdenuage that's what I usually do but it's hard to do when I get immensely mad (I rarely get mad on this level) and the adrenaline is pumping
@coolboymew@Humpleupagus@mangeurdenuage unfortunately the only logical course of action is to just agree with them on whatever they're saying and exit the conversation as quickly as possible
@CentaurBreeder@Humpleupagus@coolboymew I've abandoned with them, imagine a boomer so stubborn that he doesn't need a inventory for perishable goods like food because he "reminds" of "everything" except when he doesn't and waste fuck tons of gas/time/money because "it takes too long to make". No matter what, even when they go full ntr with a baby killer, they are not the cause of the issue.
@coolboymew@shitposter.club@mangeurdenuage@shitposter.clubS-s-sorry Okaa-sama ;_____;Either she breaks the table, bringing shame to the family and requiring seppuku, or you tell her not to, bringing shame to the family and requiring seppuku
@CentaurBreeder@mangeurdenuage@Ricotta I don't know what Laotian does, but the white culture of fucking off at 18 or so is really putting us in years terrible wage slavery, rent slavery and not actually focusing on saving, focusing on higher educations and etc
What was common were two things: the first one was the extreme pressure to go to college and get a degree in something, followed by student loan debt, a useless degree, and piece of shit parents having to deal with what they created.
The second one was what happened with me, years of NEETdom surrounded by people online, friendships slowly burning away with me being 100% oblivious to how and why from my own antisocial behavior, and my life being micromanaged by boomers who alternated between not giving a shit (if you didn't bother their TV watching binge sessions) or micromanaging every single detail of my life and bitching when I dared do anything that they might not approve of (bonus points if they had a family member like a sibling they gave free passes to).
In both cases, your boomer parents also will want you to do "chores" for free (be a groundskeeper and housekeeper for free as a friend put it) so they can binge watch more TV shows and chit chat on the phone.
Fueling this is the economy, how even big box stores will diversity hire/turn you down for some bullshit reason (the exception was that time in 2020-1 when they were wanting to hire anyone with a pulse during the COVID scare), the boomer mindset implanted in the kids that you're above working wagie jobs, and prices going up.
The real black pill is realizing Final Fantasy houses exist because kids want to escape the boomer parents with no money, so they decide to be roommates and you know what follows.
But yeah, thankfully here the degrees are cheap but I did go through the NEET phase, they have no idea what the fucking job market is like. However I'm currently earning more than they used to combined
@coolboymew@CentaurBreeder@mangeurdenuage@Ricotta The Final Fantasy house is an old story, passed through generations of livejournal posters about one of the first infamous "what if random people who knew each other through social media (or in this case AIM) decide to live with each other" sagas.
The pictures of one of the places circa 2005 are iconic as well and essentially sum up "what happens when internet losers live somewhere": http://www.demon-sushi.com/warning/mela.html
Now think about the fact that this is playing itself out, minus the cult aspect, across apartments nationwide.
@xianc78@CentaurBreeder@coolboymew@mangeurdenuage@Ricotta I've seen more "I can fix him" parents doing the "troubled teen" act with "military school" and similar, and one of my online friends has a dad trying to bitch about how the military will fix him.
@Pawlicker@CentaurBreeder@xianc78@mangeurdenuage@Ricotta Military is pretty bad as far as I'm aware, it can possibly leave you crippled with no to little compensation, fucked up with PTSD and/or you'll come out of it with no marketable skills and you'll just flip burgers, ultimately having wasted your time in a "dangerous boarding school"
@Pawlicker@CentaurBreeder@coolboymew@mangeurdenuage@Ricotta I see it mostly coming from Dads who actually wanted to get in the military themselves but couldn't for whatever reason (got kicked out, got injured, etc). Because of that, they hope that at least one of their children will serve. But to me, it's the same as parents hoping that their children will cure cancer or end world hunger, not realizing that their children will ultimately go their own path.
@Pawlicker@CentaurBreeder@xianc78@mangeurdenuage@Ricotta nah, "dangerous boarding school" was not literal. By that I meant you're going to live over there and be stuck almost 24/7 to that shit for years with nothing to show for it at the end
@coolboymew@CentaurBreeder@xianc78@mangeurdenuage@Ricotta nah "military schools" are the fake bootcamps and similar that Dr Phil watching adults think is a good idea for their kid. There's a whole industry for "troubled teens" and abusive parents who think that these places will fix their kids.
@xianc78 My father served in the Marines and was strongly against his son following his footstep. However, I bet my bro would have tested into the Chairforce.
@coolboymew Suppose you'd averted the glass table disaster by shoving your mom away from the table, and so hard she fell down the stairs and seriously hurt herself anyway. In such a case you'd agree that you were in the wrong even though none of the facts about the glass table change. Therefore, the disagreement is not about the table - despite your dad's reflexive-sounding support for glass injuries - but about how bad your preventative actions were. What I imagine is the case is just: your parents don't like you yelling angrily at them. That's easy to understand, right? Even if you were unrelated, a grown man's yelling puts other people on edge.
Maybe if you'd cooled down faster once the table was definitely not getting sit on, they wouldn't have reacted so badly. Maybe if you'd *sternly* said "mom don't sit there" instead of yelling, they would've reacted better. Or not: parents also don't like stern commands from their children. But, mainly, your parents should 1. have been more mature, since they literally are more mature 2. know *you* well enough to know that if you're shouting it's because there's a serious problem that they should be aware of. You're not a stranger that's yelling at them! 3. have calmed down faster once the problem was apparent. At least be calm enough not to reprimand you for <<<trying to save your mom from a serious injury>>> as such. A minor complaint like "you didn't have to yell", or "you shouldn't stayed so angry after yelling", that'd be less frustrating to receive.
@coolboymew and if you want to complain about their behavior later, #2 is what I'd focus on. They should know you well enough to know that you wouldn't be shouting at them without a really good reason.
This reminds me of a case where my family split up at a movie theater to watch different movies. I went to one, my sister to another, and my parents to a third. When I came out, I checked on my sister and found that her movie had ended already, but I didn't find her in the theater's entry area where we should've met up. I thought she might've wandered off and checked just outside, and gradually I panicked: I thought she'd been kidnapped. I checked the theater multiple times, I was running through the park that we were in, and later I got to back to the theater to find my sister and our parents waiting for me. I went from a 4x heartrate to a 1x heartrate in an instant, I was overcome with relief--and then my mom gave me a angry harangue, because while I'd been panicking about my sister being kidnapped, they were going through the same experience as I had, about me.
And she dressed me down similarly to how your dad reacted: it was supposedly *wrong* for me to have desperately tried to look around for my sister. I should have done *nothing*, just sat there and waited. That was frustrating enough that I occasionally remember it and seethe all over again.
@coolboymew In the words of Giussepe Verdi : "La donna e mobile, Chi piuma al vento, muta di accento, e di pensiere... e di pensiere.... e di pensiere"