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1. Bryn :polyam_new_verify: [Self-Actualization Arc] (bryn@blahaj.zone)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:53:56 JST Bryn :polyam_new_verify: [Self-Actualization Arc]

   "I'm just a jealous person. I couldn't ever handle #polyamory because #jealousy is part of me."
   
   Jealousy is not a feeling or a personality trait. It is an underlying symptom of another unmet need. Most people take it as its own thing and don't explore it further, and that's what causes it to be so powerful and toxic.
   
   But if you find the root of it (e.g. a feeling of possession of your partner(s), a fear of abandonment, a desire to be a higher priority in someone's life…) and work on that part of yourself, you tend to find yourself a lot happier as a result.

   • Ardainian Hebrew Israelite (ardainianright@detroitriotcity.com)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:53:56 JST Ardainian Hebrew Israelite

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     @bryn Loyalty is something that you should both practice and demand. If you fail at this in your most intimate relationship, what good are you for anything else?
   • Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:54:14 JST Mr. Bacon

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     • kuro-chan
     Anyone who thinks being “poly” is okay is the one dealing with connection issues.
     
     It’s totally fine to be monogamous and treat eachother well. Anyway who tells you otherwise just wants the D and is likely a ho.
     Ardainian Hebrew Israelite likes this.
   • kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:54:15 JST kuro-chan

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     • Mr. Bacon
     @Tony @bryn it's oki to want to be the only one
   • Mr. Bacon (tony@clew.lol)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:54:16 JST Mr. Bacon

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     • kuro-chan
     It’s okay to not get cucked lol
   • kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 09:54:17 JST kuro-chan

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     @bryn i prefer just not be poly
   • 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘 (humpleupagus@eveningzoo.club)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:08:32 JST 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘

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     • Mr. Bacon
     • kuro-chan
     I know a guy who's a cuck. His wife bangs other dudes. He always acts like he's cool with it, but according to people who know him better, he gets weird when she's out. Particularly, he starts sending aggressive DMs and texts to friends, acts extra trolly on Facebook, etc. I really don't believe anyone who says they're OK with it. I bet I could always find a hard cope.
   • kuro-chan (sun_eater@goreslut.xyz)'s status on Friday, 30-Jun-2023 11:08:35 JST kuro-chan

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     • 🐘🐘 Humpleupagus 🐘🐘
     • Mr. Bacon
     @Humpleupagus @bryn @Tony thinking u understand how people feel about shit u dk is a big cope tho