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1.  (mint@ryona.agency)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 06:02:33 JST 
   Being able to say "I told you so" is a man's greatest pleasure.
   • fluffy (fluffy@baraag.net)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 06:56:01 JST fluffy

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     @mint
     I see this phrase in relation to being heard.

     Instead, I often think—and express—how bizarre it is that what I have to say is disregarded out of hand.

     I never feel pleasure when I'm later vindicated; instead I feel that I've been measured as invalid and that any evidence to the contrary is received by those who judge me as inconceivable.

     When I had youth, I would call this my “superpower”… to be overlooked and ignored.

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   •  (mint@ryona.agency)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:02:46 JST 

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     • fluffy
     @fluffy Maybe it's less about vindication and more about schadenfreude. You know you won't make the same mistake in others' place, and that gives you a self-confidence boost. Wasn't talking about myself, just a general trend I observe once in a while, but can't deny I get a similar feeling.
   • fluffy (fluffy@baraag.net)'s status on Saturday, 29-Apr-2023 07:39:06 JST fluffy

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     @mint
     An old thing I heard.

     If you have a pot of lobsters, all of them males, you'll see them stack and climb, a few will get out.

     Same pot of lobsters but all female, they'll hold each other down unwilling to see anyone else succeed.

     No idea how true it is, and the sex of a thing is beyond the point I saw in this anecdote.

     When one sees a person in a moment of need, suffering, they show themselves in how they place that sufferer in the sense of “them versus us.”

     Are they beneath or beside?

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