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1. Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 04:06:17 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

   “All guys want in a girl is for them to be quiet, make food, and have a fat ass” is very odd to me.

   I love hearing the girls chirp. Just hanging out and catching up after work, listening to her give me a play by play of her day and all the intricate gossip she’s party to is a good time for me. I like hearing her happy, and nest-y, where you can just feel she’s content to have you back at home with her.

   “Be quiet” is silly, it’s more like “don’t be an asshole”, which is an outcropping of living with cantankerous, selfish women with poor impulse control. In a good relationship, you don’t want her being quiet, you want her being happy. And most women get chatty when they’re happy.

   The other thing, the food? Yeah, if she’s at home it’s lovely to have her take on food as part of her duties. The fat ass is nice, but it’s also shorthand for “loving”, but that’s a diff. rant.

   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 04:07:29 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     Maybe I’m the odd one though, when I talk about just hanging out and coddling my women as she jabbers on about her day friends have always rolled their eyes like

     “ugh I hate that stuff I don’t care, like I sit there and tell her why are you wasting my time with this shit? I don’t care about any of this“.

     That kills me to hear, because it’s selfish with your time as a man. You should be pumped that your wife’s world is so small, so safe, and so beautiful that she CAN tell you an intricate series of events about a fence dispute between people living a mile away.

   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 04:12:13 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     “Be quiet” is also “don’t nag”, which falls under having empathy for her man. Like, the other day I came home late, tired, but there was an issue with the water being clogged in the pump so we hardly had any flow. Instead of tasking me like a mommy she just said “oh, yeah, it’s not really running, I was hoping you could fix it in the morning?”

     Her baseline assumption was doing something uncomfortable for herself as long as it took just to give me a comfy return home. Looking out for your other half isn’t that tough, it’s just looking out for them like you would want them to do for you

   • Leaf Lord (leaflord@leafposter.club)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:23:23 JST Leaf Lord

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     The issue is that most people don't know how to take care of themselves, so they can't even begin to imagine taking care of others.
     Relationships which should be a unified front, a fortress against the world, are instead this retarded pvp struggle session where misery seems to be the goal.
     My favourite example is a person's reaction upon witnessing their significant other dropping and breaking a plate
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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:24:32 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     • Leaf Lord

     @Leaflord Yeah, I just got a cool fancy wine glass from a friend, within 6 hours of receipt she knocked it on the ground and broke it. All I could do is laugh, it’s very appropo for a rare thing to immediately be busted by a cute woman

   • Leaf Lord (leaflord@leafposter.club)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:24:59 JST Leaf Lord

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     • Nick
     Most men are shit at showing affection and the little things too. Let's not get this twisted.
     It's an endless sea of retards out there.
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   • Nick (nou@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:25:00 JST Nick

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     • Leaf Lord
     @Leaflord @WashedOutGundamPilot Not so much.
     The real issue here is broads have been taught from the time they were toddlers that doing anything for a man in any context makes them not a stronk independent wahmen, and they agree whole-heartedly.
     And while Woggy's right and all of the stuff he listed are small, when you're doing a bunch of small things unreciprocated that shit tends to wear on most guys and ends up resulting in resentment.
   • Kerosene (kerosene@bae.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:25:30 JST Kerosene

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     • Leaf Lord
     @Leaflord @WashedOutGundamPilot >are instead this retarded pvp struggle session where misery seems to be the goal
     You summarized why I really like some romance stories but some others feel like getting pissed in the mouth.
   • Holly Jolly D-Droid (d-droid@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:25:30 JST Holly Jolly D-Droid

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     • Rusanatas
     • Kerosene
     @Kerosene @satanasur bro it’s insane how much better romance entertainment is in Japan versus hollywood. Like Western Hollywood romance is the most unlikable shit
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   • Rusanatas (satanasur@cawfee.club)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:25:31 JST Rusanatas

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     • Kerosene
     Examples?
   • Kerosene (kerosene@bae.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:25:31 JST Kerosene

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     • Rusanatas
     @satanasur >Examples?
     Fuck, I'm late for work but I guess I'll have to tell my boss I just had to give anon some examples.
     
     The other day I was hate-watching this absolute clusterfuck of a film franchise with my sis (we pirated it). "After" is the name, and the two protagonists are the most unlikable people on the planet. They are constantly fighting over petty shit, getting into arguments over the most nonsensical stuff, and getting jealous over the other talking to other people (the most ridiculous example was the girl talking to a server and him then having nightmares of her running away with the other guy), which isn't helped by the fact that they are constantly trying to make the other jealous for whatever fucking reason. It's like they fucking hate each other's guts, and this is supposed to be "romance".
     
     Then on the other hand there's anime like "Ijiranaide, Nagatoro-san" where the two main characters just genuinely have appreciation for the other, like being around each other, want to make the other happy and see him/her grow as a person and it's overall extremely cute.
     
     tl;dr (most) anime good
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   • sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:25:44 JST sj_zero

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     I'm thankful for the wonderful relationship I have with my wife, but I can see it's a 2-way street and I think most people don't understand that.
     
     She does a lot of the things guys pray for in a wife -- she'll bring me drinks and snacks when I'm sitting playing video games (including making a sammich -- no lie!). She raises our son with me and wants to impart positive values including her Christian background. I come home from work and the house is spotless and dinner is on the table waiting for me.
     
     But for lack of a better term, it isn't free. I bring home the bacon, but I'm also the tall person to grab something she needs, the muscle to move something heavy, the handyman to fix something that's broken, the accountant, and I'm heavily involved with raising our son too.
     
     It's a team effort, and everyone ends up better off for it. Both people are there by choice, and even with a promise like a marriage it's also a choice to continue to be there every day.
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   • Leaf Lord (leaflord@leafposter.club)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:25:55 JST Leaf Lord

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     A small sacrifice for her presence.
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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 08:26:05 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     • Leaf Lord

     @Leaflord She really IS just like owning a cat~!

   • Wolfgirl in Wheatfield (wgiwf@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 12:46:57 JST Wolfgirl in Wheatfield

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     @WashedOutGundamPilot It's a rather odd mindset to have. Do they also just turn on the tv in another room to watch "the big game" or something because talking or listening to another person is too hard? This what human relationships are, learning to accept a person and learn to appreciate or ignore harmless things that about that person that you don't like so much.
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   • Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks (washedoutgundampilot@poa.st)'s status on Thursday, 13-Apr-2023 12:48:51 JST Woggy's Zeonic Frolicks

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     • Wolfgirl in Wheatfield

     @wgiwf I think it’s largely selfishness. They feel like they only have so much ‘free’ time and they shouldn’t be expected to ‘waste’ it on anything that doesn’t grant the most pleasure. The more successful, the worst that phenom gets, the more they get that “I don’t have to listen to this, I don’t know any of these people, stop talking already I don’t care” vibe of a high-level worker like a dr. or owner.

     Just…self-absorption