@RehnSturm256 She kind of knows I manipulate her, she likes it. That's why we got together in the beginning, on date 2 she told me "you make me so comfortable, nobody ever like, GETS me like you do". These days she'll ask me about how/why so she can include it in her writing, because she can't figure out how to write a male character. Lets us step outside the framing and be more honest.
If we break up she'll have so much ammo to burn me though, a whole long history of "gaslighting, manipulation, control" should she choose to exercise it. Hopefully I've covered myself well enough - I haven't had a truly hostile breakup yet, hopefully I can duck this one too