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church has been doing a marriage series, this week was on singleness.
good info, stuff I need to meditate and work on.
Pastor wants to talk to me and a few elders on what they can do to help singles after I brought up concerns after sermon.
Pastor had a great sermon.
said that singles have a unique position where they don't have to worry about the needs of a spouse nor kids, and can focus their energy and attention to the Church.
He also told married couples to not downplay nor disregard the struggles and heartaches of singles, nor to downplay the struggles they face as married people.
but also listening to a sermon on the benefits and greatness of singleness from a man who is married, it kinda feels a bit flat, like:
"I understand you are speaking from scripture, but you don't understand the extend we as singles are going through and struggling with in this modern age"
After the sermon I confronted my pastor.
I shocked him by telling him how predatory dating apps are and how hard it is finding Christian people on them, even on the "christian" dating apps. I also asked what the church was doing for singles, since he talked about single groups in the church, but pointed out that none are listed, and asked how the church is helping singles be content but also help them find someone too.
I know it comes down to where I need to check my heart.
I need to see how I can use my singleness as a benefit.
but the point stands that I feel like my church and the Church in general forgets about singles.
They focus primarily on families, and give us less than crumbs.
I will see if my pastor follows through with his promise of meeting with me and bringing in some elders to talk strategies my church can do.
I will hope against desperation, but right now my heart is very heavy.