@Barbecued_Lemons Treat it as a guaranteed thing on your timeline and work towards it so it becomes true. Girls with good eggs have good instincts, and they aren't dumb enough to make a losing bet on a man who won't be able to survive and thrive in the nightmare world to come.
Work on having a career capable of supporting you and the kids (while eventually giving enough free time to be home and parent them, but you gotta work a lot early on and pay your dues) and make sure you're a good enough version of your ideal self and you'll watch her fall into your life when you don't expect it.
Everyone I know with a good gf/wife in recent years has come from the dude being willing to say "ah what the hell let's give it a shot", whether it's a recommendation from friends & family to go on a blind date or just walking up to the cute girl after mass