'Member when people were saying this a decade ago and everyone was like "but they're not actually working with government, so we can't do anything 🤷♂️" and then we found out they actually were. Fun times.
Hot take: Big Tech was just Govt's buying time until they could get the rest of the surveillance grid up and running. The reason people find self-hosting difficult is that we've had essentially a 10 year dark age imposed by low interest rates and "free" online services.