it's a great point but I don't know how you build any momentum on a technology where different people come at it with such different expectations. instead you get a lot of people yelling at each other and curious newbies going somewhere else.
imo the big problem with fedi is that the tech argues for a system similar to Twitter, except even more open/public. but it was first utilized by people trying to be more private, to have their own spaces away from Twitter etc. Ugh.