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1. Machismo (zerglingman@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:16:11 JST Machismo

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   • Falcon Darkstar
   @falcon You sound like an incrediblly retarded nigger
   • Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:16:12 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     So then there is the case where, by all appearances, one member of a marginalized group, told that they were (probably unintentionally) harming members of a different marginalized group... does what? Uses criticism as mentorship? Improves their work?

     Nope. Shuts down criticism by calling it discrimination.

     Trolls will do their best to stir this reaction because it divides us and keeps us under heel. Marginalized people may not have the bandwidth to de-escalate. And so here we are.

   • Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:16:13 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     It isn't the point of diversity to accept worse results as some kind of sacrifice in the name of fighting past wrongs (and sacrifices don't right wrongs anyway).

     Diversity means we play to everyone's strengths and incorporate viewpoints and needs different from our own; by doing that, we achieve more than a homogeneous group could. By including and empowering everyone, we get the benefit of everyone's contribution.

     It's not about comparing oppression or letting people take revenge.

   • Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:16:14 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     That is to say, I feel most safe when my work receives the same level and type of feedback and notice as that of the straight, neurotypical dude next to me with his normal circadian rhythm. The kind of guy I have had to work harder than, get more credentials than, negotiate harder than, and sometimes work around the feelings of.

     Being seen as a peer is ideal. Being seen as a pet - shielded, given a lower bar to meet - is absolutely not.

   • Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:16:14 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     What this means is, I expect, if I fuck up, to be told. And if I hear valid criticism of my work, do you think I will say, oh you just hate queer people? Oh, you're targeting me out of ableism?

     No, I will do my best to listen and do better, and I don't know a lot of successful people who do otherwise.

   • Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:16:15 JST Falcon Darkstar

     You do not get to shut down valid criticism of your work and actions just by virtue of being a member of a minority. I can't believe how often this comes up even still.

     Obviously if one is targeted, that's a problem, but please look up and understand disparate treatment and disparate impact. These concepts are /comparative/. Between marginalized and non-marginalized groups.

     Also fwiw my own experience is that I feel most safe when my work gets the same type of feedback others' does.