Dating “advice” from anyone over 30 is often useless for zoomers, sorry bro. Not to say you don’t have some genuine advice that can be helpful in certain circumstances (outside of the obvious get a job/hit the gym/quit jerking off) but the milieu a 20-something zoomer chick grew up in vs. a 38 millennial woman who was in her twenties well before online dating ever REALLY took off is so different, a lot of techniques and lessons you learned aren’t going to be super useful outside of the basics, or if you miraculously manage to find a zoomer chick that wasn’t oversocialized and dopamine-fried.
You have to understand the basically every zoomer girl had a phone surgically connected to her hand from age 13, and has been on social media and dating apps 24/7 ever since. There’s a reason why most zoomer dating ‘advice’ is either “do gear and max out credit cards for looksmaxx surgery” or “it’s over”. Yes you can chalk a lot of that up to youths being inexperienced, emotional, and shortsighted. But there’s a reason why it resonates with their lived experiences.
You might say “oh well I’m 30-whatever and I date chicks in their 20s, I know what it’s like.” You probably have a decent idea if you do this enough, but also, you’re 30. You’re dating with a 10+ year headstart on building yourself and establishing a career, and you’re with a younger girl so natural it’s going to be easier. “Just wait till you’re 30 bro!” is not a sustainable strategy if you want people to have big families. Not to mention that every successive cohort gets smaller and smaller.
Boomers - 70 million
Millennials - 76 million
Zoomers - 32 million (also 49% nonwhite)
There are less zoomers than millennials, and there will be even less of each successive generation in the future since birth rates have fallen of a fucking cliff. Now you have an increasingly large pool (proportionally) of older dudes competing with younger dudes for a smaller and smaller subset of young women every year. But hey, keep calling dudes incels and maybe it’ll magically fix a nationwide demographic bottleneck!