It's a tiny nugget but it shows how deep this whole thing goes. They're doing all they can to present the entire spectrum of weird perversions as the "natural" and healthy band of habits to kids, before they can ever get a taste of healthy family-building love.
This is just an industrial sized grooming endeavor. This letter writer is fourteen, there's no reason for this conversation to be had with anyone but her most close, trustworthy family.