If you think of yourself as a bumbling idiot, she's going to think of you as a bumbling idiot, as she is going to grow tired of holding up your self-esteem for you. "A real man" is his own self-esteem.
If you think you are "the crap", a woman is going to test you by trying to bring you down a peg, and if you come down at all, you've already lost her. The only response is to think that you are even MORE of "the crap", and, if necessary, kick the woman who is constantly testing you to the curb to find one who views you as you view yourself: "the crap". If she views you even better than you view yourself, use that to create a new benchmark for your self-image/self-worth, and any woman who doesn't match that image, kick her to the curb.
Women crave achievers and resent settlers.
Neediness repels women more than anything.
If you can't be confident alone, you can't be confident with a woman.
Women love brave risk takers. This has to involve gaming women and experiencing rejection. Outcome independence is the best way to be (emotionally unphased), but if you don't try and don't get rejected, then you can't learn how to handle those emotions to become indifferent, as you need to be.
Guys who are afraid of rejection are like guys afraid of the dark: they never grow and become men.
The more you see men defer authority to women, and the more pushback a man gets for saying what I have said, the more you realize what is wrong with this country.
Women realize that they are the weaker vessel, but men don't know how to lead women, and this leaves both men and women frustrated. Men assume egalitarianism, and, thus, their wives nag them to death, because their wives, and women in general, crave submission by nature.
This is a massive multi-generational problem that stems back to the fall. Women were created as a helper for men, but the fall made them nag. This is Scriptural.
Men should not be afraid of women. Men should be telling women what to do. And finding women who are willing to submit to male authority. And listening to other men who have figured out how to best command that female authority. As a matter of fact, men should be reading things from men outside of America, because American men don't lead their wives. Their wives control their pocketbooks, and that's it. I have said what I have said.
Men take the easy, lazy way out, and, thus, their wives nag them ceaselessly. It's easier for a man to quit than to learn how to effectively command and lead. But ultimately, it isn't even easier, because all he gets is nagging, with no idea how to give his wife what she wants, because he does everything she wants. But he just doesn't understand that she just wants him to take charge and make decisions on his own, where she follows. He fails her tests constantly, where she wants him to make a decision on his own, to satisfy himself, without her approval, because that shows her that he is "a real man that takes charge". Instead, we have frustrated, nagging women, and absolutely clueless men.
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