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Thorwegian ❄️ (thor@berserker.town)'s status on Sunday, 24-Sep-2023 00:37:57 JST Thorwegian ❄️ today, i learned about a new and painful form of friend zoning.
the typical form of friend zoning goes like this: you meet a girl that you like "like that" and she likes you too, but not "like that", and if you continue talking to her despite that, you're in the friend zone.
the new and more painful version: her words say no, but her actions say yes, so you get intimate and form a close bond... but she still doesn't like you "like that". you're a close friend, with benefits, but she doesn't love you. you're not the one.
this isn't always so deliberate. feelings can develop in one person but less so in the other. since there is an emotional attachment, contact is kept up. but since it's unequal, one person will always feel neglected and unhappy.
thinking back to other women i've been with, i'm not entirely convinced they were serious either. unlike her, they did tell me they loved me. but they weren't committed to making it work.
this girl was different, because there was serious commitment to the friendship, and there was intimacy, but she put down the brake pedal firmly at the slightest sign of escalation. it was completely non-negotiable.
it doesn't work for me. if there is such serious commitment plus intimacy, that means i'm in love with her, and the only thing missing to make her my girlfriend is loyalty.